About me

[yossi]

A brief explanation of who I am and suchlike:

I'm a Jewish late-40s early 50s artist, singer, and tech asshole. I'm genderqueer as fuck - my gender identity has been "butch" or "dyke" for more than a decade. Currently I'm undergoing hormone therapy to shift my presentation from "butch but I guess a woman" to "sure does look like a dude from here". What can I say? It took me 40 years to figure it out, but I finally did, so why not go for it.

I guess that technically makes me a trans man, but I still feel like a big ol' butch dyke. Being queer is exhausting sometimes.

I was married to a high femme, my beloved Glitter Princess, for 14 years before she died in early 2019. It's complicated, but she was sick for many years before she passed away, so it was expected. It still sucked a lot, though. She and I raised four children (plus a bonus kid), who are all now in their mid-20s to early 30s, and are all wonderful.

I now live with my partner (hereafter referred to as The Cryptid) in a house with a gas stove, a lot of art on the walls, and four ridiculous cats. Life doesn't suck.

Comments

[kass]

I'm glad you have companionship. Someday I hope to have a partner again. It's not gonna be anytime soon, though. And that's ok.

But yay for partner and gas stove and art and cats and kids.

[yossi]

Companionship is a good thing. I didn't "need" it, per se, and I was certainly not looking for it. But sometimes an enby and a trans guy who are already best friends watch Xena together online during a pandemic and then realize they can be a quarantine pod because they never go anywhere anyway and then they meet up in person for hugs and watching Xena IRL and then Shit Gets Gay. Or so I've heard. Allegedly.

Learning how to be by myself after Miryam died was one of the best things I've ever done for my own mental health, though. It was entirely necessary and I would do it again, even through the crush of grief that is the first year after someone dies. It's good to know, now, that I can be by myself and be not only okay, but happy and fulfilled. My partner is a lovely bonus to an otherwise pretty decent life.

I'm sure your life doesn't allow for the emotional and mental space to have a partner at this time, but I hope some day you and your perfect person find each other. I also hope you're doing well as you are. <3

[rellephant]

aww gay <3

[yossi]

super gross

[labelleizzy]

Hello I think we have a mutual friend, naamah, and when you said on Tumblr that you had a DW also, I came over. Feel free to check out my blog here ( my Tumblr has the same handle and is way more chaotic and active )!

[yossi]

We do! Hi, friend!

[birdspiritland]

Hello! I'm allthisandtea over on Tumblr. Hope you don't mind that I added you. ^_^

[yossi]

Not at all! welcome to my infrequently updated blog :)

[birdspiritland]

Huzzah!

[needs_more_duck]

hi hello guess who remade and is here to cause problems (it's me!)

[yossi]

yay!